“Sometimes all you have to do is go for it. Take a breath and jump. Because here’s the thing, you can spend forever standing at the foot of the diving board, and you will always find a reason not to go in. It’s too high; it might hurt; you might swallow water. And all of those things are true, but you know what else is true? You’ll waste a perfectly good life standing on the edge when really the most beautiful thing you can could do is go for it. Take the jump.” -Author Unknown
So, here’s the thing. I have asked myself many times why I have been able to create the life I love while many others haven’t.
Some could say it’s because I have been to MANY meditation retreats and workshops. And it’s because of those that I live the way I do. But I have met others and talked to even more that have been to as many as I have if not more. In fact, I have found it to be the case that those who have gone to tons of spiritual conferences, workshops, and retreats struggle even more when going back to their lives. They still struggle with stress and getting caught up in life, allowing it to take them over much of the time. And they still are not able to create the life they love.
Some could say I’m just lucky. That some people have luck and some don’t. Which is so comical to me because I use to say all the time that I was one of the unluckiest people in the world! And worse, part of me actually believed it!
Some could even say I got into a relationship with a man that has supported me and it’s because of him I am able to do everything I am. I’ve actually had people say that out loud to me. Which is also comical because if you were to ask my partner about this, he would be the first to tell you how driven, determined, and independent I am.
So, after thinking about this a lot, especially after many, many phone calls I’ve had with people coming into the Freedom Project that are trying to create something in their lives. And feeling their pain in my own bones. After all of this, I can confidently say, I know why I am where I am and others are not.
The BIGGEST reason, that differentiates me between many others, is that I am a leaper, not a thinker.
It’s not to say that all of those things haven’t played a part in it. I know they have. They have helped mold my life and the person I am today. And I’m beyond grateful for all of them, especially my partner, who most definitely, more than anything, supports and allows me to be who I am. Even when that takes him to his edge!
I believe whole heartedly we are creators of our lives. Which means everything that has or hasn’t shown up in my life, has been the manifestation of all the work I have done within me. It’s not luck, it’s not workshops, it’s not a man. It’s determination. It’s will. It’s not wanting to be in pain any longer. It’s choosing to make this life matter more than being scared of the unknown. It’s going to those dark scary places within me that most are too scared to. It’s letting go.
Now, I realize many out there will balk and scream at this idea. Some may say it’s reckless, careless, even selfish. And perhaps for those people, their life may continue to stay safe, comfortable, and pretty much the same. Calculated risks work for some people.
They just don’t work for me.
I remember even as a young kid my dad yelling at me, telling me, “you never think before you talk or do things Emily!!”. I grew up thinking that was a bad thing. That something was wrong with me. Until I realized this was actually my gift.
You see, I have some kind of deeply embedded, unwavering trust in the unknown. I have a knowing that no matter what, everything will always be ok. Because even if it doesn’t play out the way I think it should, that’s exactly how it’s suppose to be. And even though my dad yelled at me for “having my head in the clouds”, he always taught me this very mottoJ
If you ever follow Mel Robbins, she talks about the 5-4-3-2-1 rule. This excerpt is from her website explaining this rule:
“The 5 Second Rule is simple. If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it. The moment you feel an instinct or a desire to act on a goal or a commitment, use the Rule. When you feel yourself hesitate before doing something that you know you should do, count 5-4-3-2-1-GO and move towards action. There is a window that exists between the moment you have an instinct to change and your mind killing it. It’s a 5 second window. And it exists for everyone. If you do not take action on your instinct to change, you will stay stagnant. You will not change. But if you do one simple thing, you can prevent your mind from working against you. You can start the momentum before the barrage of thoughts and excuses hit you at full force. What do you do?
Just start counting backwards to yourself: 5-4-3-2-1.”
In other words, our analytical minds will almost always try and talk us out of doing anything unknown or unfamiliar. Anything that represents change. It will weigh the outcomes drawing from memories of things that have happened before. But here is the thing. If you want to create change in your life, that means something new needs to happen. That means YOU have to do something new. Something that may feel unsafe, but really is just unfamiliar. It means you may just need to take a breath and jump. Because you could waste your whole life standing on the edge talking yourself out of what may be the most incredible leap of your life.
I leap. And I continue to leap. And trust me, there have been MANY times where I drive myself crazy, let alone those around me that I drag on all my adventures!
But I have had enough experiences now, jumping into the unknown, to tell you, it will never let you down. No matter what, you come out on the top. And whether that means you go through some tough things in the process, you have just given yourself the gift of resilience and knowledge and strength. That to me is living.
I have made a lot decisions in the past 3 years that many would argue to say were risky, stupid, careless, and just down right dumb. And you know what? I am beyond grateful that I have made every single one of them. I am beyond grateful that I listened to my heart instead of my head and I took action. I didn’t just sit back in my life as I had always done in the past and continued to be a victim. I got in the driver’s seat and drove.
The point I am trying to make isn’t to boast or brag. It’s to tell you it’s ok to leap. Not many in your life will give you the permission to do this. I will.
I teach our students breathwork as my part in The Freedom Project. It’s one of my passions and I so desire for people to have magical moments through breath work. To change their lives with letting go of old stuck energy and using their breath to create.
But you know what is even more important to me? That I can help people find the courage within themselves to leap. To go after the job they want, the partner they want, the life they want. At the risk of losing everything, to find their true path. The life they are supposed to live instead of the life they are told to live.
There is a whole world out there just waiting for you to experience it. That’s why we came here into this existence. Not to escape life, or to play safe. But to fully embrace it, truly, moment by moment.
That is my wish for anyone reading this today. Even if just one person listens to their heart today.
And decides to finally leap……